Strange are the ways things unfold......

Many a times, we always take it for granted the next course of action (I can also call it life). But we often see things do not unfold as expected, they are in fact quite strange. The ways it unfolds can be far better than it was conceived or many a times much worse than it should have been. When things unfold in favourable way, there is not much thought put into the way things have taken shape. We never think things have been more favourable than we deserved or desired but think we have got what we intended to. We tend to think only in situations where things were not very favourable to us.

It is quite difficult to judge if the situation has been fair to our actions or unfair to our actions. I think even the thought about the judgement of our fate or destiny as I may call is not right. I feel we are being hypocratic about this. When we do not give so much heed to the way things have taken shape when it is favourable to us, similarly we should not get into judging fairness of the situation when it not favourable to us.

There are certainly a lot of glitches/undulations along the path we travel. The undulation could be really huge but this (extent), I think is very subjective. If any such things are subjective, then we have to realise that there is something still missing which has to be done from our side. It could be the effort which has been a shortfall or the way the things will unfold could be beyond our cognition. Or we are unnecessarily making a big fuss about the whole thing.

Having said all these, there is still a feeling of discomfort which many a times are beyond words when things are not unfolding in our favour. I am not sure if it really makes sense to compare the situation with our surroundings. But certainly thinking about the other dimensions of the whole issue could throw a lot of light about how things have unfolded. There could be a silver lining which might have been totally overlooked. It is in my own benefit to have this perspective rather than crib about the unfavourable situation.

But of late, I have heard or read a lot about a totally different approach, different from all the above ways. We as human-beings are so obsessed about "How things should be", we totally ignore to recognise "How things are". The whole cause of misery or conflicts within us is because of this conditioning. We are quite judgemental about everything. We tell a thing is good or bad but do not see the way it is. We have to always come to some conclusion before we take a step. Why dont we just take the step without concluding that the step I am taking is good and there can be no fault or I would not repent later because of this. Similarly why do I need to worry when something goes wrong. The whole reason to judge the situation has gone wrong has risen from the idea "How things should be" not from "How things are". The point here is, we have to just proceed with our actions, the same actions which we would have taken with the conclusion that it is good or bad, without being judgemental or without having conclusion. The ways things unfold is quite strange and we have to give the chance for the destiny to unfold things for us.......